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“God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction so that we will be able to comfort those who are in any affliction with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God. 2 Corinthians 1:4 NASB

I opened a recipe book recently and found a piece of notebook paper in-between the pages. There was a list of ingredients listed on it, but clearly no hint of what they were for. Flipping over the paper and expecting more information on the backside, I was astonished to find, not the name of an entree, but instead, a love note. Imagine that. Evidently it was written probably 20 years ago, during my early years of being married. Just that quick, I was right back there, remembering the sweetness of a new baby, a happy family. As quickly as that thought came, it was instantly replaced by a thought of what “could have been” and I started spilling tears. (As I wrote these words, it happened again! Yep. I’m pretty emotional sometimes.)

I call it the “grief sabotage”. One might be humming along through the day, things going pretty well, feeling joyful, grateful, and then wham! Out of nowhere this big wave comes over and you feel crushed. Ever been there?

In the past year, it seems like I’ve had my share of grieving. I lost 3 dearly loved pets, and my dad and mom both passed away in the last few months, so grief is still fresh. I also saw a cousin unexpectedly lose a parent, a sister lose a child, and I divorced in April. As heart-aching as the death of a parent, child, or any loved one can be, the loss of a spouse due to separation or divorce can be grievous as well. It’s still a loss. It still hurts.

What I’m learning, like many things, grieving is a process. It can’t be rushed, and it needs to be dealt with, even as painful as it is. Grief is the price of loving. It can bring feelings of loneliness to the forefront. Missing a person may bring feelings of hopelessness, or helplessness, because they’re gone and they’re not coming back.

If you’re dealing with grief, it may be helpful to talk to someone about it. If that’s not happening, know that Jesus sees everything you’re going through. No one completely understands the way He does. Tears are cleansing, so go ahead and have a good cry! Jesus fills a vacancy with His own precious self. He sees and knows. He helps us move on, one day at a time. People say “Time heals.” But I know, “God heals.” Give Him your hurts and allow Him to do a healing work in you.

PRAYER: Oh, Jesus, You are the Peace that passes ALL understanding. Let each of us be aware of your presence today. Comfort those who need comforting, who are sad, sorrowful, or grieving. Heal us in Your time, in Your way, and in Your name. Amen.

7 comments on “Dealing with Grief

  1. sedgegrass says:

    Thank you for such an encouraging post. If those moments of being blindsided by grief can become a reminder to lean hard into Christ’s love for us, it’s a tender mercy.

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  2. Sara Ames says:

    Thank you for your core honesty & encouragement to walking to the hard…

    Liked by 1 person

    1. So kind. Thank you, Sara.

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  3. Starla says:

    Beautiful job my friend!!

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Thank you for the encouragement, Starla.

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  4. As the Queen of England called it, “Annus horribiles.” All would be loss except our Redeemer lives! Amazing how your faith builds up mine. Thank you.

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