Back when I was fairly fresh out of college, I worked at a cancer research facility. Rather naïve, I never anticipated sacrificing mice as part of my job, but it was an immunology lab, after all. 😂
The guy I worked with was a foreigner and never called mice, mice. It was always animals for him, pronounced “ah-knee-malls”. I loved his joyful approach and eager attitude as he fed and cared for my “animals”. 🐭
I went into that line of work with the knowledge of understanding I would learn a lot, furthering my career. But there was so much I didn’t know—like harvesting mice spleens for feeding skin cancer tumor cell lines. I even had a UV induced mouse tumor named after me. What an honor, right? 🤪
I entered marriage much the same way. High hopes, anticipating a beautiful future with a trustworthy person. 😍
Again, I never dreamed what lay ahead would be in my job description as a wife. 😳
Perhaps you are there today. Unexpected turns have left you feeling hopeless and helpless? Maybe you didn’t know what to expect after your wedding day, 💍 but you certainly didn’t expect betrayal.
DON’T LOSE HOPE.
Choosing healing for yourself is number 4 of the 4C’s:
- You are not the cause.
- You cannot control him.
- You cannot cure him.
- You can choose healing for yourself.
To learn about each of these in more depth, see the page for 4 C’s (on this website).
There is hope and help. Women in support groups for betrayal trauma are there to provide validation and encouragement. They “get” you when others may not understand.