Where Does Your Identity Come From?

I’m the goofy chubby child on the right. All dressed up in Dutch attire for the annual Tulip Festival in my hometown. A lot of my identity comes from my Dutch heritage, but even more importantly is my identity found in Christ. Healing from betrayal …

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Are You Creating Margin?

Margin: an additional amount allowed beyond what is the minimum needed or necessary.  Quite often, in the messy middle of betrayal trauma, we don’t take opportunity to rest, reflect, or even gather our thoughts.  Demands of work, motherhood, and household obligations consume us – leaving …

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V.L.V.L. What?

V.L.V.L. What? Vicki Lynn Vander Laan. The name my two older sisters (ages 9 and 10) chose for me before I was born. They thought it would be cute to have my initials be V.LV.L. (I’m grateful my dad put his foot down and announced …

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Metamorphosis

When Christian women first find out about infidelity, it is normal for them to experience a crisis of faith. It is common to question God and to wonder why He’d allow something so devastating to happen.  We know from Hebrews 12 that God disciplines those …

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