Hello. I’m Debra.
I’ve lived the nightmare, and perhaps you have, too. We’ve all had our D-Day. Discovery Day. The day we discovered our husband’s double life.
Mind-blowing, earth-shattering, unthinkable— that’s how I’d describe mine.
It’s bad enough, learning of a husband’s infidelity, but when my husband left me for another man? That was a double dagger through my heart—an additional heaping of shame to address. I gave up hope. Do you feel this way, too?
Maybe we’ve kept quiet—too ashamed to tell anyone? It’s ok to break the silence. You are not to blame. You are not alone. We’re on a path of healing, and it takes time, but there is light at the end of the tunnel. Promise.
Maybe life isn’t what you thought it would be. It wasn’t for me, either. My 22-year marriage ended in divorce- the dream of “living happily ever after” in a restored marriage was not the outcome. Perhaps this resonates with you, or perhaps you’re in a marriage where your spouse is not pursuing healing from sexual addiction.
No matter where you’re at—married, separated, divorced—I hope we will connect. You’ve experienced a trauma which often results in a crisis of faith. I’ve been there. I couldn’t understand why a loving God would allow this to happen.
As your story unfolds, would you allow me to come alongside to give encouragement and cheer you on? I’ll share what’s worked for me. Together, we’ll get through this. We no longer need to live in shame and secrecy. We can boldly claim this verse:
“We are clothed in strength and dignity and can laugh at the days to come.” Proverbs 31:25
I’ve learned we can laugh in the future because I’ve learned who holds our future! Although we feel abandoned, God hasn’t left. In fact, He will never betray, leave, nor forsake us. Let me share how I know. Ready to move forward? Let’s go.
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