One thing women who’ve experienced betrayal trauma must do is grieve the loss.
It isn’t a one time event.
Similar to ocean waves, grief can wash over us unexpectedly. We can be easily triggered and out of nowhere, the grief appears, sabotaging our day.
Whenever this happens, I find myself saying, “ Stop and grieve,” and then if possible, I’ll stop my day to work through the feelings. It usually involves releasing some tears.
It doesn’t always mean we can stop what we’re doing, but grief needs to be acknowledged before healing can happen.