When trust is broken we lose our sense of safety and security. Many things need to happen before we regain a sense of trust.
So how do you know when you ARE safe? Well, YOU get to decide when you feel safe—not your husband. A good indicator is when you feel like you have your voice again. You don’t feel threatened when you give an opinion. You are able to communicate what your needs and wants are, and feel heard.
Your husband is the one who must commit to providing safety and stability for you. His actions must match his words. When he follows through and faithfully keeps his word, you will know he is on a path to healing, and desires to fight for your marriage.
Watch and wait. You have a right to feel safe and secure.
Debra Wallace 