Doubting God’s love? Not all women experiencing betrayal question God’s love for them, but some do. When I was in the thick of it, I admit I did, too. Reading the familiar story of Mary, Martha, and Lazarus, I had to wonder what was going …
Read MoreHeard of Red Flags? What About Green Ones?
This diagram, courtesy of Abuse No More, is a breath of fresh air. There are people who are doing life right and they are to be applauded. Thank you to those who incorporate green flags during recovery! You are a blessing!
Read MoreWaiting is Doing
How is God calling your “doing” to reflect your “being”? I know it’s biblical to wait on the Lord, but certainly it means more than just being patient. I don’t think it includes being stressed out, tired, overworked, or strained to a breaking point, either. …
Read MoreSteadfast in 2022
I chose a word of encouragement for 2022: steadfast. I found two passages—both of them perfect to align my thoughts with God’s. “The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases; His mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning; great is Your …
Read MoreLet’s Heal Together
Dear Newly Betrayed, When we begin to allow ourselves to believe God remains unchanging and faithful—no matter what, then we have already taken our first steps toward healing. Getting to this point felt like an impossibility for me—maybe for you, too? Healing together, in community—day …
Read MoreALL ABOUT CHOICES
Photo courtesy of Jon Tyson, upsplash IT’S ALL ABOUT CHOICES. A wise phrase repeated by a highschool teacher I know. As women affected by betrayal trauma, we know the danger of poor choices. The book of Nahum speaks of God’s anger against Nineveh, the capital …
Read MoreWish You Had His Energy?
Do you have an energizer bunny in your life? They just keep going and going and going? I often wonder, “Are they ever going to stop?What does their Sabbath look like—do they ever rest?” I don’t like comparing, but part of me wonders how they …
Read MoreWho Encourages You?
My gracious and brave friend lives across the ocean and goes to bed when I’m waking up. She is an encourager and a writer (even though she doesn’t know it, yet). She calls me “She Wolf” — fiercely focused, eyes fixed to pounce, to take …
Read MoreGod’s Always Working
I’ve been thinking about Naomi lately. On her travels with Ruth from Moab back to Bethlehem, she was husbandless, childless—an outcast in society. Naomi thought the Lord’s hand had gone out against her. She must’ve been full of despair—feeling helpless and hopeless. But all the …
Read MoreSincerity and Truth
Manipulation. Gaslighting. Deception. As women who experience trauma from betrayal, we are familiar with these words. We want to have hope and trust things will get better, but we often feel alone in our battles. Many believe lies are relatively harmless, but not God. He …
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