Pray continuously and listen.
Read MoreHeroes of Faith
The Old Testament heroes of faith are examples to follow.
Read MoreAre You Creating Margin?
Margin: an additional amount allowed beyond what is the minimum needed or necessary. Quite often, in the messy middle of betrayal trauma, we don’t take opportunity to rest, reflect, or even gather our thoughts. Demands of work, motherhood, and household obligations consume us – leaving …
Read MoreV.L.V.L. What?
V.L.V.L. What? Vicki Lynn Vander Laan. The name my two older sisters (ages 9 and 10) chose for me before I was born. They thought it would be cute to have my initials be V.LV.L. (I’m grateful my dad put his foot down and announced …
Read MoreRemember the Victories
Quite often on our healing journeys, we fail to remember the little victories along the way. The signs of proof commemorating how far we’ve actually come. For years I’ve had a sixth sense near the anniversary date of my discovery day—the day I thought my …
Read MoreGod’s Always Working
I’ve been thinking about Naomi lately. On her travels with Ruth from Moab back to Bethlehem, she was husbandless, childless—an outcast in society. Naomi thought the Lord’s hand had gone out against her. She must’ve been full of despair—feeling helpless and hopeless. But all the …
Read MorePebbles or BamBam?
If you’ve been around as long as I have, you may remember Welches Grape Jelly coming in a Flintstones or Tom & Jerry glass jar. I knew it was going to be a good day when I poured the OJ in my “Pebbles” juice glass. …
Read MoreVolleyball and Betrayal Trauma?
I was prepared to go on a hike, but after hearing the sudden rapture of voices, I checked it out instead. Rounding the corner, a family volleyball game was in progress. They saw me walking by. “We’re short a player! Want to join in?” I …
Read MoreThe Club No One Wants to Join
Hi Friends! I’ve written an article @joyfullifemagazine entitled, The Club No One Wants to Join: Finding Support for Betrayal Trauma “On a betrayed wife’s journey to joy, opportunities to share stories with one another –as well as participating in informative discussion topics to help one move forward–are vital.” …
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