Perhaps you’ve told someone your story, but they didn’t leave space for you—making their own assumptions or being judgmental. After an experience like this, the next time it happens and someone asks how you’re doing, instead of being vulnerable, perhaps you may say, “I’m fine, …
Read MoreHow Do We Respond?
How do we respond? When betrayal occurs, we have a right to feel however we do—including anger. An injustice has happened, turning our world upside-down. Our right to our feelings is important, but so is our response. Although we may feel indescribable anger, throwing plates …
Read MoreNo Energy?
It’s easy to feel defeated. Let down by people you love. Recovery from betrayal is hard—just know it doesn’t go unnoticed. “O Lord, all my longing is before you; my sighing is not hidden from you.” Psalm 38:9 ESV God is watching 24/7. He doesn’t …
Read MoreThe Ultimate Valentine
A valentine we all need— If you know my story, you can believe I get a lot of questions such as, “Well what about this person? They’ve been this way since childhood. They have always struggled.” So here’s a word on sexual sin. And yes, …
Read MoreBeen Ghosted?
Ever been ghosted? Familiar with the term? It’s an abuse tactic. I’ve encountered many women who have been ghosted. It’s when someone in a relationship with you disappears without warning. They go silent. They may physically leave, eventually come back, or not. Sometimes it happens …
Read MoreTime for Reflection
We need time to rest and reflect but as necessary as this is, we can end up feeling guilty for not being “productive“. “The man who makes me his refuge will inherit the land and possess my holy mountain.” Isaiah 57:13b During the month of …
Read MoreBe Prepared with Anchor Verses
I love what I’m learning in my recent Bible Study, 40 Days Deeper: Perspective written by my friend, Caroline Collie. She encourages scripture memorization and calls verses ANCHOR verses. (Scriptures we can hold on to BEFORE a storm hits.) We need to always BE PREPARED, …
Read MoreWalk by Faith: Not Fear
If we truly believe our situation is in God’s capable hands, here is no need to stress or worry over the future. Jesus sees mistreatment. He knows our sorrows. He’s aware of concerns for tomorrow. He STILL and ALWAYS loves us. Focus on this—leave the …
Read MoreA Time for every Season
In Ecclesiastes, God’s Word tells us there is a time for everything. What time is it for you? Whatever it may be, sit with it for awhile. Are you crying? Numb? Healing? Grieving? Desperate? Recovering? Relieved? Restored? Let it happen. Dig deeper, accept the season …
Read MoreRecognizing Abuse: The First Step
Does God hate divorce? I believe it’s because he hates the abuse which leads to divorce. Surely he is grieved by both, but make no mistake: An abusive marriage does not honor God, nor does staying in an abusive marriage. In the groups I facilitate, …
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