Rather than playing hide and seek with God, come before Him in confession.
Read MoreThree Verbs
Three ways men can love their wives in real life.
Read MoreWhere Does Your Identity Come From?
I’m the goofy chubby child on the right. All dressed up in Dutch attire for the annual Tulip Festival in my hometown. A lot of my identity comes from my Dutch heritage, but even more importantly is my identity found in Christ. Healing from betrayal …
Read MoreWhat’s Your Battle Cry?
Choosing to follow God and seeking Him must replace “winging it” in our own strength.
Read MoreLaugh without Fear
We can laugh without fear of the future, when we know who holds our future.
Read MoreHow Trauma Affects the Brain
Stop ruminating on the past, don’t give yourself a guilt trip—rather, rest in the knowledge that your brain is trying to help you heal.
Read MoreNever Fear!
So how do we cope through betrayal or trials in life? By walking with Jesus— EVERY day, in His Word.
Read MoreAre You Creating Margin?
Margin: an additional amount allowed beyond what is the minimum needed or necessary. Quite often, in the messy middle of betrayal trauma, we don’t take opportunity to rest, reflect, or even gather our thoughts. Demands of work, motherhood, and household obligations consume us – leaving …
Read MoreV.L.V.L. What?
V.L.V.L. What? Vicki Lynn Vander Laan. The name my two older sisters (ages 9 and 10) chose for me before I was born. They thought it would be cute to have my initials be V.LV.L. (I’m grateful my dad put his foot down and announced …
Read MoreMetamorphosis
When Christian women first find out about infidelity, it is normal for them to experience a crisis of faith. It is common to question God and to wonder why He’d allow something so devastating to happen. We know from Hebrews 12 that God disciplines those …
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